Hospice chef reveals the one comfort food most people ask for before they die

At an Oxfordshire hospice, chef Spencer Richards makes sure those nearing the end of their life are served meals prepared with much love.
For this man, cooking for terminally ill patients isn’t just a job, but a calling.
Speaking to the Mirror, chef Richards revealed there is no greater privilege than making the last days of the patients a little bit better with his comforting food.
“My own philosophy is that there can be no greater privilege as a chef than serving someone their final meal. Recently a 21-year-old patient didn’t connect with anything on the standard menu. He was young and didn’t like the usual options, so we talked and he liked street food, so we made that happen,” he shared with the publication.

He recalled making a birthday cake for a 93-year-old patient who spent her entire life in a traditional home where birthday celebrations weren’t common.
“When we surprised her with one, she was in tears. She was absolutely over the moon.”
Actually, a birthday cake is the most common thing the patients at Sobell House Hospice ask for as their days on earth are slowly coming to an end.
“They’re small things, but especially for people who’ve been isolated or are feeling lonely, they mean a lot,” chef Richards said.

Further, he explained that adapting the dishes he prepares is of great importance since most of the patients who are at palliative care lose the ability to swallow. Their taste buds also change, and due to the medications and the treatments they receive.
One thing this hospice chef has noticed, however, is that patients with cancer “get a sweet tooth.”
Also, most of the patients are sensitive to salt.
“Food is a powerfully emotive medium – it can summon childhood memories and create new lasting ones. That’s what we do here.”
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My grandma was critical after emergency surgery and my parents refused to come, but at her funeral, the pastor read her final note—and dad’s face changed when he heard his name…

My grandmother was in critical condition after emergency surgery, and my parents refused to come. But during her funeral, the pastor read her final note—and my father’s expression changed the moment he heard his name.
My grandmother died because my parents had already decided she belonged to me.
I called them from the hospital at 2:18 a.m., still wearing the sweater she had clutched when the pain began.
“Grandma is critical,” I said. “Please come.”
My mother sighed as though I had woken her over a broken household appliance.
Then my father, John, took the phone.
“You’re already there,” he said. “You’ll take better care of her.”
Then he ended the call.
Grandma Ruth did not make it through surgery.
For the next three hours, I sat alone in a waiting room filled with the smell of coffee, antiseptic, and fear, answering questions no granddaughter should have faced without help. I signed only what I was legally permitted to sign. I called every number I knew. I sent updates until my hands trembled. Each time the automatic doors opened, I looked up, hoping guilt had finally brought one of them through.
Mom never answered.
Dad sent one message at sunrise.
Keep us posted.
Nothing more.
Not I’m coming.
Not tell her I love her.
Not please don’t let my mother die alone.
When the surgeon finally approached with that careful expression doctors learn to wear, I already understood. He told me they had done everything possible. I nodded because speaking would have shattered me in front of strangers.
Grandma Ruth had treated me with more gentleness than anyone else in our family. She taught me how to brew tea correctly, save receipts, refuse to sign under pressure, and recognize who vanishes when love becomes inconvenient.
My father vanished often.
When she sold old jewelry to cover his business debt, he called it a loan. When she handed over half her pension for “temporary help,” he reminded her that family should not keep track of money. After hip surgery left her confined at home, he visited once and complained about the stairs.
Yet at her funeral, he appeared in a black suit, holding my mother’s hand and performing grief as though he had practiced it in front of a mirror.
He even claimed the front pew.
“Mom would have wanted the family united,” he told people.
I sat one row behind him and said nothing.
The pastor stepped to the pulpit and unfolded a small cream-colored envelope.
“Before her surgery,” he said, “Ruth gave me a note to read if she did not survive.”
My father’s body stiffened.
The pastor lowered his eyes to the page.
“If John is here,” he read, “do not let him speak for me.”
The church fell silent.
Then he turned the page.
“And do not let him touch my estate.”
Part 2
My mother made a sound as though the air itself had struck her.
Dad stood. “This is inappropriate.”
The pastor remained still. “Ruth was very clear.”
Dad forced a tight smile toward the congregation. “My mother was medicated. She was frightened. She didn’t understand what she was writing.”
From the second pew, Grandma’s solicitor slowly rose.
“She understood perfectly,” Mr. Bell said.
My father’s face shifted.
I had never met Mr. Bell, though Grandma had mentioned him many times. Nice man. Sharp eyes. Doesn’t let bullies rush old women.
He approached the pulpit carrying a leather folder. “Ruth updated her will eight months ago after discovering several unauthorized withdrawals from her savings account.”
Whispers spread across the church.
Dad turned toward me. “You did this.”
I met his eyes. “I was at the hospital.”
“You poisoned her against me.”
“No,” Mr. Bell said. “Your bank records did.”
He opened the folder and read enough for everyone to understand. Checks made out to John. Online transfers from Grandma’s account into a company controlled by Dad. A loan document bearing forged initials. A credit card opened in her name after she entered assisted care.
Mom whispered, “John…”
Dad snapped, “Be quiet.”
That was the moment the room’s sympathy moved away from him.
The pastor resumed reading Grandma’s note.
“If John tries to cry louder than the truth, ask him where he was when I called him from the emergency room.”
My chest tightened.
I had not known she had called him as well.
Mr. Bell looked at me with quiet kindness. “She left a voicemail on his phone before surgery.”
Dad clenched his jaw.
The solicitor played the recording.
Grandma’s frail voice filled the church.
“John, I am scared. Please come. Not for money. Just once, come as my son.”
No one moved.
Then the voicemail ended with Dad’s recorded response, sent fifteen minutes afterward.
“Mom, don’t start. Call Clara. She handles this stuff.”
Every face turned toward me.
Then Mr. Bell spoke again. “There is one more instruction.”
Dad whispered, “Stop.”
Mr. Bell continued.
“Ruth appointed Clara executor of her estate.”
Part 3
My father left before the service was over.
For once, nobody went after him.
Mom remained motionless in the front pew, staring at the flowers beside Grandma’s photograph as though they might explain the man she had defended for three decades.
After the burial, Mr. Bell gave me the file.
Grandma had left me her house, her savings, and every piece of evidence she had collected. She left my mother a letter. She left my father one dollar and one handwritten sentence.
You spent the rest while I was alive.
The investigation started the next week.
Dad called me heartless. Then greedy. Then unstable. He told relatives I had manipulated a dying woman. But the bank statements, recorded voicemail, forged initials, and solicitor’s notes carried more weight than anything he said.
The estate recovered part of the stolen money from his company account. The credit card debt was removed from Grandma’s name. Dad’s business partners pulled away after learning why the estate had filed a claim. By summer, he was no longer invited to family gatherings where he once held everyone’s attention like an injured prince.
Mom came to see me sometime later.
She stood on Grandma’s porch with swollen eyes and empty hands.
“I should have come to the hospital,” she said.
“Yes,” I replied.
“I let him decide everything.”
“Yes.”
She cried harder because I offered her nowhere soft to hide.
I did not hate her. But grief had stripped away my need to soften the truth, and truth can have sharp edges.
We sold nothing.
I moved into Grandma’s house and kept her roses alive. Every Sunday, I made tea in her blue pot and read through the recipe cards she had marked for me.
One of them was not a recipe.
It said, Clara, love is not proven at funerals. It is proven in waiting rooms.
I framed it and hung it in the kitchen.
My father wanted to stand at her funeral and inherit from the woman he had abandoned.
Instead, her final note made certain everyone heard what had really happened.
He was not mourning her.